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Quite often, parents are faced with the problem that their child is completely uncontrollable and naughty. They try to explain how to behave and sometimes raise their voice at the child. All to no avail! Perhaps it's time to look at yourself and your behavior from the outside before punishing the child. We have prepared 7 mistakes of parents who, without knowing it, make their children misbehave.
1. Don't use threatening language
Does the child start arguing and try to do everything to piss off the parents? In such cases, some parents try to turn to common sense, others simply scream and threaten: “if you behave badly, I will not love you”, “we will give you to an orphanage”, “the police will come and take you away”.
Children always feel that this is an empty threat. By deceiving a child, you lose his trust. In this case, the behavior will not improve. It would be more helpful for you to say, "I love you, but it's not good what you're doing now."
2. Lack of attention
You work hard from morning to night to buy a good toy or gadget for your child. But instead of grateful words, you get tears and whims. This is unfair! If your child is not getting enough attention, the way to get it is to misbehave. A child needs a weekend with you more than any gifts.
Love is not expressed in the gifts that you gave, but is manifested in all the emotions that your child has, you must accept them and show interest in his life.
3. You are constantly giving orders.
When parents communicate with their child by giving strict orders, the child is bound to be stubborn. In this way, he or she shows his personality.
How do you know that you are right? Adults also have their own problems and psychological trauma from childhood. Sometimes you make mistakes, and that's perfectly normal.
4. You pay more attention to your other children.
This point overlaps with the second. The child doesn't get enough attention and acts like "if I don't feel comfortable, I'll make you feel uncomfortable too."
5. You criticize your child
“What kind of scribbles do you draw”, “You write like a chicken paw” these and other typical phrases are usually heard by children from their parents. After that, any child will lose confidence and give up trying to do something better. He'll think, "Okay, I'll be bad, anyway, I'm useless."
6. You are setting a bad example.
Are you late for your meetings, swearing and ignoring the feelings of others? Your child notices this and, of course, repeats it. Children are a reflection of their parents, although we do not always pay attention to this.
7. You lash out at your child.
After problems at work, you return home and lash out at your child to vent negative emotions. And then, to make amends, you just buy sweets. How, then, to form the idea that parents are pleased with good deeds and upset with bad ones? So the child can still get hit even when the homework is done and the trash is thrown out.
Have you found any of these sins in yourself? Sometimes we refuse to notice these simple things! Share this important information with your friends. Maybe they need it.
author Women's Magazine