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Many people mistakenly think that a psychopath is either a sophisticated serial killer (something like Dr. Hannibal Lecter) or a person who does not express their emotions enough. Actually, it's much more difficult.
An emotional psychopath can appear quite normal and even charming for a long time. So charming that a woman can sometimes go years with this man without realizing that he is abusing her emotionally.
1. He makes you feel guilty.
Emotional psychos rarely talk about themselves. Most of the time they seem charming and compassionate. A minute ago, he was about to beat you, and then in a sweet voice he says: “I'm sorry, baby! I didn't mean to hurt you. I know you didn't ruin our evening on purpose. You just need to stop being so emotional…”
Look what he just did! To distract you from focusing on the real threat, he makes you feel guilty for wanting to hurt you. Remember : emotional psychos are completely unpredictable and never feel guilty.
2. He manipulates you.
Manipulation is the intentional misrepresentation of information. The goal of manipulation is to make you question your own memory, feelings, and ultimately sanity. This is one of the favorite tricks of emotional psychopaths. For example, when you catch him cheating, your man may scream that you are humiliating him with "your disgusting espionage." When an emotional psychopath is caught red-handed, he will do everything to make you start to doubt the reality of what is happening.
3. He blames you for everything.
It may seem that this is the same as number 1, but it is not. It's about the emotional psycho's tendency to blame others for all his problems.
Does he have problems at work? Well, it's your fault because you don't support him at home. Is he in trouble with the law? Well, it was you who pissed him off so much that he couldn't contain himself. Is your marriage unhappy? Of course, this is because of such a terrible wife! In fact, everything bad that has ever happened, is happening, and will happen is all because of you, not him! He's great, and you're wrong, end of story.
4. He puts you down.
Emotional psychos always want to take complete control of their victims. They want to control everything - even your thoughts. Because they understand that if you start thinking about yourself, you will realize that you deserve much better.
“You are ugly, useless, pathetic, stupid” - once an emotional psychopath manages to get this thought into your head, after a while you will begin to believe in it, and you will want to hold on to him. Simply because you will (wrongly) consider him a blessing and the best thing that could ever happen to you. By destroying your self-esteem, emotional psychos try to make you believe what they want you to believe.
5. He isolates you.
He will ban you from seeing his friends, for the reason that - wait - they might try to convince you to break up with him. He will also say that your friends just don't understand how much he loves you. His main goal is to convince you that you do not need other people, because all you need is him!
6. He remembers your vulnerabilities.
When he discovers something that upsets you, he turns it into his weapon. And he will use it at the moment of your greatest vulnerability and weakness. The emotional psychopath is incapable of compassion. This way, he will hit all your sore spots without any remorse. For what? All for the same reason - for complete control over you.
7. He is a sick loser.
An emotional psychopath is so sure of his superiority that any situation that could undermine his authority can end up completely unpredictable . The best scenario - he will blame you for everything that happens and leave you slamming the door, or worse - he will throw a week-long scene.
If you find that your husband or boyfriend is behaving this way, run away from him! Emotional psychopathy is a severe mental condition that can be seriously affected.
And one more thing, always keep in mind - he will never change!
author Women's Magazine