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A wonderful article on how to learn to appreciate your life more.
Leave on time. Home, even if no one is waiting for you there, from an incendiary party, from guests without a "staff", from inappropriate connections and bad habits. From depression and dark thoughts, from difficult memories, from relationships that have become obsolete, from people who destroy you, or from a person next to you.
Give him and yourself a chance to find someone (and maybe yourself) with whom it will be better, more comfortable, calmer in the form in which each of you needs. If you are already unable to give it to each other for one reason or another, do not deprive each other of the attempt and hope to find it in other relationships and in yourself.
Do not be greedy, do not take away from others their chances of being happy in the way they understand it, and from yourself - yours. Because each of us is at his own point in evolution, moves in his own rhythm, radiates at his own frequency, vibrates at his own wave and receives his own experience. And if you entered into resonance with someone, you found each other and dance together. And if in a protracted dissonance, then you will get the necessary experience, sign under it, thank you. And leave on time.
Do not set in motion a mechanism that will crush you under the harsh pressure of circumstances when you are forced to make a decision in conditions much less convenient for you; where you will have to slip out from under the millstones of very superficial, but painfully hurting “public” judgments, which do not care about your true, sincere and vital motives, your suffocated patience and long attempts to “save” something, someone to “save” ".
Leave on time, do not leave deep scars on the body of your life, do not infect your soul with the voracious virus of guilt - a feeling that, with incredible zeal, is tearing you away from your exclusively unique life and from yourself. Leave on time, do not burn drawings on the fragile fabric of your destiny. And do not encroach on someone else's skin.
Value your life more than others value your life. Leave on time if someone puts their life above yours, because in the answer you are the first priority for your life and only then for someone else's. No one has come into this life to lie on the sacrificial altar. And life is not given to man in order to sacrifice great gifts - life itself and the ability to love.
It is not difficult to lose yourself, it is not difficult to dissolve yourself in another, in someone else's life, in someone else's world, in someone else's reality. It is not difficult even to demand and desire this.
Finding yourself is hard. Only we can determine and allow the measure of the use of ourselves. After all, sacrificing yourself for nothing, in excess of the measure of participation in someone's life allotted to you, you automatically do not give yourself (or maybe someone who sincerely needs it), or at some other segment of your life you will not quite a bit is enough - just those wasted forces.
Any relationship is fruitful when there is exchange, interaction, return. This is a couple dance. But if you start trampling each other's feet until it hurts and bleeds, you need to stop this dance and, having healed the wounds, start a new beautiful dance, perhaps with a new partner. And so in any relationship - partnership, family, work.
Learn to leave on time both within the created situation and from the situations and circumstances themselves in your life. You always know this point: trust yourself, don't coax yourself, don't be deceived and don't deceive others.
There are no bad people, no matter how much we would like to argue about it. There are people who are different from us. For the true meaning of this sacred action under the sacred name of life is unknown to us, but absolutely everything that is inside and outside, beyond our understanding and within it, animate and inanimate, is filled with it. And there is no other responsibility than to yourself and to each other, but first of all - to yourself.
Everything that happens in our lives, everything that happens around us and in the distant Galapagos Islands of Ecuador, happens with our permission. We have allowed our life to be what it is, we have set this time of change in motion, we have torn off the lever from that spring that has burst with all its compressed and pumped force and is now beating in a convulsively chaotic free soar. We have allowed grays to dominate our lives, we have allowed ourselves to be afraid of everything, we have allowed ourselves to be outsiders in our own lives.
Look around, maybe it's time to get away from this. It is incredibly difficult to abandon everything that has become obsolete and leave, no matter what anyone writes about it. Leaving is difficult, but leaving on time is simply necessary. Maturing inside your infinity for as long as you need, but leave on time.
Get away from the judgments and opinions of others in time, turn your eyes to yourself. Where is your anchor point? After all, the only way you can turn the whole world. Do not look for it in others, friend, other. I'll give you a secret - it's not there! As there is no happiness in someone if it is not in you.
Get away from obsessive illusions and imposed fears in time, but keep striving, keep dreaming, keep trying. Do not be afraid to make a mistake - it means that you tried. Do not be afraid of the reaction of other people, you still will not be able to completely predict it until you do what you have planned, and if you can, all the more fear is meaningless. But you will have a chance to leave in time. Yes, just leave and move on.
We understand when we don’t have something that we would like to have, when they didn’t give us something, but we were waiting. But we never think about what we were saved from without giving us what we want now.
The truth is simple: everything comes in time, even miracles. Therefore, leave on time, do not delay anyone. Because if you delay, the script of life is already being rewritten for other people.