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Everything comes with experience, sometimes even the experience itself. And if two years ago it might have seemed to me that I knew everything, now I understand that it was a big mistake.
Today's topic will be devoted to children's cries and tears against the background of falls, or rather, how to avoid them and quickly calm the child.
Don't think I'm not a teacher in a white coat. I will not engage in moralizing, but with your permission, I will simply tell our method, which, for sure, everyone is familiar with.
It all started after my son learned to walk. Of course, it was not without falls. But in most cases, the drunken gait of the little one did not fail. After a couple of months, my son never learned to walk normally ... he flew. And after another fall or hit on a chair, a crib, we started a children's op. We were the only ones to blame.
The child did not have time to hit, and we are here, as if with the words: “Oh, you hit, well, I will show this door!”.
Well, that's all ... the wick is set on fire, it remains: one, two, three ... START. The time bomb in the face of the small one exploded before our eyes. Or, tears, and then calming down for a few minutes.
But all of this could have been avoided... Just don't show your child that you're scared and excited because of his fall. Yes, you continue to worry, but the little one should not have seen this. Plus, it was necessary to slightly sweeten the pill and divert attention with a funny phrase or mini-story. The most important thing for us is intonation.
Before/Now
The son hit (1.5 years ago) - we run to lisp. The result - oh, tears for 10 minutes.
The son hit (now) - we do not attach any importance to this. The result is a smile, a joke from my son and a great mood.
But here you should not rush from one extreme to another. Equivalent moments of the fall are described! If he gets off the scooter and combs the asphalt with his face, of course, this will not work, but it will slightly minimize the suffering.
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Here is an example. In the summer in the park, the son accelerated on a scooter, lost control, and then a fall followed, and, accordingly, tears. Came to Temych. Further dialogue through crying:
- I fell!
“Okay, now let's evaluate the physical damage. Well, here, son, 1% of combat power is lost.
- Relics? What is it? The child continues to sob.
I divert his attention from the scratched palm and show my scar on my elbow and tell the story of how I flew off the bike and swept the whole yard with my chin, and slowed it down with my elbow. Son: “Why did you sweep the road with your face? Did you get hurt? Did you cry?"
Now followed by inquiries about my case from childhood. The son was still sobbing, but on the whole he forgot about the fall and about his minor injury. He was more interested in how I looked and if my hand still hurt.
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He hit something... The son with bulging eyes looks at us and waits for our reaction. If you run up and start blowing off dust particles, then everything ... is gone. He is still sitting on the floor, and does not know what to do, it seems to hurt, but crying is not comme il faut. Me: “Oh, that’s a great punch. A little more and the bed would definitely crack! And when I was little, I hit the sofa like that, it already flew up! Son: “How did the kavatka crack?” The finger, if it hurts, is already perceived as a feat.
This is not the only method, we approach each case individually. We do not show our fear and fright, we pretend that nothing unusual has happened, but “ignore” should not be real. After each fall, we carefully identify possible injuries, but without focusing on it. Perhaps my story will be useful to someone. Thank you for your attention! All the best!