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Not only psychologists and sociologists conduct various studies concerning the strength of human relationships and the characteristics of feelings and behavior. Strange as it may seem, clergymen also study marriage. Moreover, it is very unbiased and quite fundamental.
For example, one priest did a very curious study that took him a long thirty years. The results of this work are thought provoking.
What research did the priest do?
The clergyman, who had just begun to work in the parish, was interested in the question of whether there is a relationship between the oaths given to people to each other in front of the altar, and the strength of their family union.
The clergyman came up with a fairly simple way to track the presence of this relationship. Before starting the wedding, he took the groom aside under a delicate pretext and asked him a single question. Depending on what answer the young man gave him, the priest made a note in a notebook where he wrote down all the married couples. And so the clergyman acted for thirty years.
What did he ask the groom?
What question did the priest ask the men a minute before the wedding? And why did he interview grooms and not brides? The clergyman is not at all a misogynist and does not adhere to the traditions of home building. It’s just that not a single woman could answer his question objectively, because the fair sex is very emotional and romantic, especially before the upcoming wedding ceremony.
The clergyman asked the men about exactly how he should conduct the sacrament. He offered two options:
- full, with the pronunciation of the oath "to be together until the end of their days";
abbreviated, without oath promises.
And what is very curious: many men thought about the answer to this question.
What are the results of this study?
The priest recorded the data of all the couples married by him and passed through a kind of survey in his notebooks. He did this in order to track the further fate of the newlyweds.
And decades later, he analyzed the collected data. As it turned out, only 10% of men without a doubt chose the full version of the wedding ceremony, which includes the pronunciation of marriage vows. And these families turned out to be strong, there were no divorces in such couples.
Those who began to doubt and chose the short version of the wedding ceremony were not happy. Their family relationship did not work out. Of course, there were an unusually large number of divorces in these couples.
This unusual experiment makes us think about how different people's attitudes are towards marriage. After all, if a man refuses to pronounce oaths a minute before the wedding, it means that he is initially not sure that he will live next to his chosen one all his life.