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Many of us have a bad habit of wearing our hearts on our sleeves. It can make us an open book even to strangers. We definitely don't want that - after all, mystery is the spice of life. Making a clear distinction between personal life and professional life is a tricky (but very important) skill. You have to be very picky about who you share your secrets with because, unfortunately, not everyone has good intentions.
It is important to note that you need to be careful to ensure that the details of your personal life cannot be used to hurt you. It is helpful to have a basic list of certain personal information that you should never share with others. If you don't know how to make your own list, we are here to help. In fact, we have put together some secrets that you should always try to keep to yourself, no matter how strong the desire to share them with everyone.
"Secret privacy doesn't answer too many questions about it." — Joan Collins
Here are 7 secrets to never tell anyone about your personal life:
1. Past grievances
We all have negative stories about our personal lives to tell about people we don't like. (Remember those classmates or former co-workers you hurt years ago - and maybe still? Yes, it's the same here .) It's always best to let go of these feelings and discuss them as little as possible in public. It's just as much for you as it is for others, because negativity is debilitating. Not only to feel, but also to listen. People prefer to associate with positive conversation partners, those who have interesting ideas, not those who put them in contact with some other people they don't even know. Let go of whatever is holding you down. Try to focus on the present and you will find that more and more people will be very happy to talk to you.
2. Material things
As we all know, some things in life are much more important than their cost. But sometimes we can't help but brag about a new car we own or a new phone we just bought at an exclusive price. As much as parks and recreation might tell you otherwise, your peers don't want to know how you feel about yourself. This can make you come off as arrogant and overly obsessed with the monetary value of things rather than their unique value. Modesty is a wonderful accessory. You should try and spread it during your conversations
3. Goals for the future
You may find this unlikely, but there is actually science that you are much more likely to achieve your long-term goals if you don't share them with others. When you tell others about your future aspirations, you almost feel like the joy of achieving your goal has been taken from you. As a result, you are not zealous in it. However, if you keep your goals to yourself, you are much more likely to achieve them. And once you do, feel free to tell the whole world about it.
4. Your income
Only one group of people should be able to know the details of your income: the people who work at your bank. Money is never a good topic of conversation in public because you never know what someone's financial situation looks like. It may seem that you are boasting without meaning. Money – and knowledge about finance – can change a relationship irrevocably. As soon as your financial situation becomes public, people simply start looking at you differently, not being able to help it. To save yourself from such an embarrassing situation, keep your income information in your bank statements.
5. Good deed
You may have heard that good deeds always attract good karma. This is true, and you should never be discouraged from doing good - however, if you start bragging about it, it takes on a whole different perspective. As soon as you brag about something good that you have done, you are making it all about yourself, thereby nullifying the good that you have already created. Many of the world's greatest philanthropists remain anonymous for a very good reason. When you do an act of charity, you want the focus to be on the people or cause you are helping, not on yourself.
6. Enlightenment
Everyone seeks reprieve and enlightenment in different places. Some turn to religion, others turn to sports, others to mindfulness and meditation. Whatever your choice, don't force it on anyone else. Because what is sure to turn anyone away from your choice of enlightenment is any notion of preaching about how good it is and how nothing else will fit. Then you just turn into one of those people who scream in the streets about how true their version of religion is. How often do you listen to them? This is what you will be if you start to "preach."
7. Family problems
Whether it is your numerous relatives or blood relatives, keep the problems in the family. Don't abuse people's trust. You were told these secrets because you are close to these people, but they did not allow you to spread them to everyone in your social circle. They trusted you, and breaking that confidence is the worst thing you can do. Respect other people's secrets. In turn, you can expect them to treat you the same way.
Final Thoughts
We like to think that everyone is interested in every aspect of our personal lives, but unfortunately, this is rarely the case. There are conversations that you should only have in certain environments, and others you shouldn't have at all. Learn to make this distinction to make sure you don't become superhuman. Positive thinking is very important in this process. In conclusion, don't let yourself down if you've done any of the above things. Just start thinking about how you are going to be better.