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Has it ever occurred to you that your spouse might be unhappy with you? This can make you panic or even become paranoid. But, calm down! There is a right way to evaluate your marriage. Psychologists have prepared 15 questions for self-test. Answer them together, maybe it will spark a heart-to-heart conversation.
1. When was the last time you hugged?
Well, the question of hugs, nothing strange. They perfectly convey gratitude and love. So you exchange tenderness and warmth.
2. How do you show your love?
You know, there are many ways to express your feelings to your husband. What does he value most: words of encouragement or praise, shared leisure, gifts, help, or tactile contact? So what about you?
3. Which adjective best describes your relationship?
Warm, tender, rough, fragile, deep, inspiring, oppressive?
4. Do you think you have changed a lot since your wedding?
When people meet, they try to show only their best qualities. And then the couple moves in together, has kids, and gets tired of pretending to be someone else.
Question: Are you comfortable with each other now that you live together?
5. Are you ready to change?
It is important that both partners in a marriage try to get better. If someone struggles with his weaknesses, and the other indulges himself, nothing will come of it.
6. Whose habits have changed recently?
Why? Is it due to stress, fatigue, or an attempt to break the routine? Find out!
7. Do you consider yourself a good parent?
As a rule, mothers are completely absorbed in caring for their children, so there is not much parenting left for fathers. Is he happy with it? How often does he hear: “you can’t, let me do it myself”?
It's not fair.
8. Do you vacation together?
Sleeping in the same bed does not count. Visiting a cafe, restaurant, park or exhibitions - that's what.
9. On the other hand: Do you like free time?
If you are inextricably linked with each other, this may be a sign of addiction. Do you have interests that are not related to your partner? Are you dating your friends and not your mutual friends?
10. How satisfied are you in bed?
Answer honestly. Don't pretend everything's fine.
11. Can you disagree?
Disagreement, is not the cause of your quarrel? If yes, then this should be discussed.
12. Are you afraid to say something?
This is not a question about your lying habit. You need to find out if you are afraid to say something for fear of a reaction.
13. What do you value your beloved for?
It's not about what your partner does. It's about whether you really need it and how you rate the effort
14. What are your priorities?
Do they match? It is important for a family to move in the same direction and be a team.
15. Do you share life values?
Differences here appear only with time. Moreover, when they appear, they do not seem to be problems.
It is also interesting to observe each other's reactions to each other's questions and answers. Maybe it will take more than one evening to sort everything out. But, in the end, you will better understand your relationship and stop torturing yourself with uncertainty whether he is happy or not.
author Women's Magazine